“I have found that when you are deeply troubled, there are things you get from the silent devoted companionship of a dog that you can get from no other source.”
- Doris Day
We’ve gone through a lot of things so far to try and help you and your dog, but we haven’t really tackled the emotional journey you will undertake with your dog.
It seems like an odd thing to say, but loving your dog can get in the way of what you need to do. We’re not saying you shouldn’t love them – loving your dog should be the top of your priorities! If you don’t love them, you shouldn’t be sharing your life with them. What we’re saying is that in tackling the issues you face, you may have to make some difficult choices. Those difficult choices and techniques may make you feel like you’re being mean to your dog.
As you’ve read so far, nothing in this site is about forcing your dog, or being physical with them. We only want you to work with your dog and their instincts.
Our desire to love and nurture our dogs is perfectly natural, and we wouldn’t have it any other way. However, we can’t confuse human body language with the doggy body language.
It goes against all our instincts to ignore a dog who is scared of something; we want to hold them, stroke them and tell them it will all be okay. But that isn’t the way they learn or understand our behaviour.
It can take tremendous willpower and strength to be able to stand firm. It can be emotionally draining; it can be frustrating: AND IT SHOULD BE.
If it wasn’t difficult, and it wasn’t draining, then it would mean that you don’t care. The reason you’re reading this is because you care and you want to change the situation you’re in (or you just learn more about your dog – you wouldn’t do that if you didn’t care).
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